Below is more or less the note I wrote to my donor, to be given on the day of her retrieval, rewriting from memory. It took six drafts to say properly, in a way that wasn't mawkish, in a way that wouldn't scare this lovely woman from us in the future if we ever reached out. I could write endless pages to her, why we chose her, how we ended up needing her eggs..... but I chose to leave it simple.
From what I see, lots of donor egg recipients offer tokens of their appreciation. After a lot of consideration, I decided against jewelry - even though I found a really cool tree of life pendant - and went with two small items, both in the comfort category: a set of really beautiful handmade aromatherapy soaps that I got at a craft fair, and a set of drawing pencils with sketchpad. The donor had noted in her profile that her favorite downtime activity was painting, that all of the art work in her house she painted herself.
This is a difficult note to write, because there aren't words to express the gratitude that we feel for your generosity.
The road for us to get this point has been long and hard. I want you to know that regardless of the outcome, you have given us an enormous gift: Hope. Thank you for giving us hope.
I hope that you have an easy recovery from your retrieval. And I truly wish for you all of the best in anything you choose to do in the future.